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Things I Wish I Knew Long Ago

growing up

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1. Life is a gift, and no matter how long we live, there’s always more to learn about it. It will teach you more than any classroom. Free your mind from “small thinking” and always contemplate the magnificence of being alive.

2. You are the only one of you in the world and you were not a mistake. There is a reason you are here, follow where your heart leads you and you will find that reason.

3. Find a mentor whose life illustrates integrity, compassion, sacrifice and strength. They created a path and even if you don’t want to walk in their footsteps, you can definitely learn from their example.

4. Never forget to give. No matter how little time, money or energy you have, contributing to your community, your environment is vital to the refreshing of your spirit. It will do more for you than you ever do for others.

5. Control money, never let it control you. If you don’t know how, learn. Never forget it is what you own and not who you are. HOWEVER, always have some, where no one else knows about it. Financial independence means you can walk away.

6. Keep a list of your values where you can regularly see them, for when circumstances are overwhelming. You will be grateful for a reminder. We are all human, but living outside your values makes life more miserable than any circumstances.

7. Cultivate relationships with “givers”. They will support you in your path and remind you who you are. It is your sacred duty is to feed those relationships. Don’t waste energy on the “takers” in your life; they are bottomless pits that are never satisfied.

8. Take care of your body now and every day after. Do not take your youth for granted, it fades fast. Feed it, water it and exercise it, like the delicate machine that it is. Avoid extremities of any kind and when it is in pain, listen to it.

9. Our sleeping dreams are catapults of our waking dreams. Do not deprive your life of its greatest asset…rest.

10. Whatever you pay attention to becomes a reality in your life. Choose wisely.

11. Respect begins within. Strive to treat yourself the same way you treat others. The more you understand yourself, the easier it is to understand the behavior of others.

12. Your first relationship with the world began with your parents. Revisit that relationship. The more you recognize them as people, not caregivers, the more you realize who they are, and who you are. Your life is not pre-determined, you are in control.

13. Your life, your knowledge, your skills, your experiences, your gifts are valuable and eternal. Develop and share them, it is the spark that can envelop and heal other souls around you. Don’t stifle your light.

14. You are at least ten times prettier than you think. Ask your mother/auntie/granny if she thought she was pretty when she was twenty. She’ll say no. Then find a photo of her at that age. See? Don’t ever let vanity take away from your spirit, it is a waste.

15. The only thing you should ever fake is confidence. If you don’t have it, pretend. In every new situation, pretend you’re not nervous and not afraid. The pretend part will eventually disappear and the respect you gain will bolster you in future situations.

16. In really tough situations, remember what it was like to be a nine-year old girl. Do a cart-wheel, even if you don’t want to, and remember that feeling of freedom. You are still that same person, remember that, and you will stay young until the day you die.

17. Cut or potted flowers are never a waste of money. They remind us, no matter how ugly things get, that there is beauty in the world.

18. Trust your gut. Before you know what it is, your gut does. You can ignore advice from friends, family, even your own brain, but you can’t ignore your gut, it never lies. Drowning it in alcohol or Haagen Dazs won’t make it stop telling you the truth.

19. Wear sunscreen on your face, neck, and hands every day, winter and summer. You’ll remember me when you look in the mirror at age fifty. Floss your teeth. Put nothing in your body that can permanently harm your spirit, including the wrong man.

20. Raise your consciousness. Believing there is a God and knowing Him are two different things. Cultivate that relationship and the world you live in will never be more than you can handle.


Today and Every Day

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”-Maria Robinson

We are all busy, we are all moving toward the unknown. The speed in which we all move can be enough to burn us up. Add these to your day and re-prioritize some of your moments:

Memorize something – This will not only allow you moments to focus on something important to you, it refreshes the brain and keeps it healthy and active.

Reduce attachment to possessions – The more we own, the more stress we have. Make a commitment to less and get rid of more.

Develop your curiosity – Note when you wonder why, what, when, where or how. I know you don’t have time to figure it out now, but make a note of it. Research that question, get the answers.

Remember people’s names – Develop a system of remembering. This is an investment in future relationships. People remember those that make an effort to remember them.

Do something good for your body – Our bodies are free gifts, let’s not squander them.

Focus on today – Schedule a time to worry, don’t spend a whole day on it.  Most of the things we worry about are not going to happen today, if at all. Think actively about how can you get the most out of today, it may be your last one.

Don’t be too serious – Not everyone is looking at you, you are not the most important person in your home, workplace or classroom. It’s the ultimate vanity to never be goofy, to never laugh at our own humanity.

Read – Millions have had something important to say, so much so that they published it. There are things written that you don’t know, find out what they are!

Go outside – Just like our bodies, our world is a gift. There is beauty in a leaf, in a bug, in a cloud, in a puddle. Go find it.

Practice controlling your mind –  Our thoughts can control our lives, so it’s important that we can control our minds. Don’t let this muscle take you where you don’t want to go.

Practice forgiveness – Grudges are the worst slavery, it is voluntary bondage. Let it go!

Trust yourself – We all make mistakes. The most important person we can forgive is ourselves.

Love is the most important thing that will happen to you today, stay focused and don’t miss it!

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